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Services For The General Public
By Ofer Zur, Ph.D.
Director, Zur Institute, Sonoma, CA
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Dr. Zur has been in private psychotherapy and consulting practice for over 20 years (CA Lic. #10763). He works with individuals and couples on issues of anxiety, depression, relationships, love, parenting, affairs and infidelity, Internet concerns, meaning and calling, ways to grow well into old age, and honorable ways of dealing with issues of mortality and death. His focus is on health and wellness rather than pathology and brokenness. For a description of Dr. Zur's philosophy and approach to therapy and consultation, please click here. |
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HEALING AND DEALING WITH INFIDELITY AND MARITAL AFFAIRS
There are myths or erroneous beliefs that martial affairs always mean that something is wrong with the marriage or that it signifies the end of the marriage. The truth is that not all affairs are created equal. While some affairs are the result of revenge or sexless marriage, others may have nothing to do with the quality of the marriage. Additionally, many couples not only survive the infidelity but, in fact, emerge stronger, more loving and more committed than ever. This consultation will attempt to help individuals or couples survive the infidelity crises and help them effectively deal with the feeling of shock, betrayal, rage, jealousy, depression, revenge, etc. The consultation will help individuals assess the nature and type of affair and what may have fueled it (i.e., sex addiction, sexless marriage, midlife crisis, one-time affair, etc). Most importantly, the consultation will aim at helping individuals come to terms with the affair, take responsibility for their actions (or in-actions), let go of resentments and a sense of betrayal, shed feelings of victimization, and most importantly, heal and grow. It is highly recommended that prior to seeking consultation on this issue with Dr. Zur that you read his Infidelity Brochure and Victim paper. More in-depth study of the topic is available as an online course on Infidelity and Affairs: Myth, Realities and Effective Therapies. [Note: Due to the volume of inquires, Dr. Zur does not response to questions via e-mails or phone messages that are not part of an agreed upon and paid for consultation.]
MEDIATION & CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Dr. Zur is an experienced business, family, divorce and community mediator. Mediation at its best leads to a resolution that is more than a compromise. Its aim is satisfactory resolution for all parties, who may not initially envision a win/win option. While Dr. Zur neither conducts custody evaluations nor provides custody recommendations, he strongly believes in the value of collaborative divorce for the long term health of adults and children alike.
CREATIVE WILLS, LIVING TRUSTS, AND OTHER DISTRIBUTION OF ASSETS
Many families, and particularly parents, are regularly struggling to find fair and just ways to allocate assets to other family members. Resentments, jealousy, disconnection, family feuds and lawsuits are often the result of parents' best intentions. Dr. Zur has developed a system where he facilitates not only the distribution of assets but also the distribution of love. Attending successfully to concerns of fairness, justice, and people specific needs can assure that everyone can get what they want in financial as well as emotional terms. This process is not only likely to prevent bad feelings, resentment and long court battles, it can also enhance family ties and harmony.
FAMILY BUSINESS CONSULTATION: Where blood, money, and power mix
Family businesses provide families and individuals with the biggest challenge and with the most wonderful opportunities. They can break families apart or increase its love and connection. Family business is a unique environment where blood, money, and power are mixed together. Emotion and financial forces are interwoven and hard to separate. These consultations are geared to increase business effectiveness through resolution of family and communication problems.
RESURRECTING THE VILLAGE: Integration and recovery through a community of care for people with severe mental illness or chronic brain disorders (Schizophrenia, Bipolar, Depression disorders) and their families
This is an integrative, non-pathological and comprehensive approach to treat people with chronic brain disorders such as Schizophrenia, Bipolar (Manic, Manic-Depressive), and Depression. I developed this approach as a result of my experience of what a true village was in East Africa in the 1970s. In this approach I help “create” a “village” or community of care around the “sufferer.” It is not a pathological approach that engages all the people who are significant or involved in the person’s life. The “village” may include parents, stepparents, siblings, children, relatives, psychiatrist, neighbors, landlord or landlady, career counselor, cab drivers, etc. The main idea is to help people with chronic brain disorder live respectfully and meaningfully in their communities and avoid isolation in mental hospitals or other facilities. For more information on this approach, click here.
HEALTH, PTSD, PROGRAMS REVIEW, AND ORGANIZATIONAL CONSULTATION IN THIRD WORLD COUNTRIES
Dr. Zur is currently seeking a part-time consulting position in a third world country. He is seeking a consulting position in which he can use his experience, capacities and psychological knowledge to decrease human suffering in third world countries, preferably Africa. His expertise and interest is in health, disease prevention, staff development, conflict resolution, and increasing compliance with and effectiveness of medical treatment. He is looking for a part-time consulting position that will involve traveling to third world countries, preferably in Africa, for about 2-3 weeks every 2-3 months. For more details and references, click here.
His main interests are in the following areas:
- Health Promotion, Disease Prevention, and Compliance with Treatment: Dr. Zur is interested in the psychological and psychosocial approaches to changing sexual and other behaviors, as well as using psychological techniques for enhancing health practices, effective disease prevention, and increasing compliance with treatment.
- Treatment of PTSD, Trauma, Vicarious Traumatization, and Burnout: Dr. Zur is experienced in the treatment of trauma for refugees, victims of rape and domestic violence, and for providing relief to staff members suffering from vicarious traumatization and burnout.
- Education: Dr. Zur can develop direct- and distance-educational programs and trainings.
- Needs assessment: Assessing the needs of organizations, communities, and individuals in regards to psychosocial problems such as AIDS, Malaria, TB, Domestic Violence, etc.
- Program evaluation: Act as an outside expert for programs and organizations to objectively evaluate the effectiveness of their investments and efforts.
- Staff and Team Development, and Conflict Resolution: Help with team building, clarification of goals, organizational development, mediation and conflict resolution.
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